Fixed Mindset vs Growth Mindset – Get Stuck Into Trying New Old Things!

‘Nope. I can’t do it. I listened to everything that you said, I still tried, but it didn’t work. I knew it wouldn’t work. I knew I wouldn’t be able to do it’ *whilst crossing arms as if to say ‘I told you so’* 

Does that sound like you? Have you ever heard yourself say that, either to yourself or out loud to someone else?

Have you convinced yourself before you’ve even attempted something that you won’t be able to accomplish it because what you were trying was out of your comfort zone? Or you had already tried something similar and you had trouble with it?

do it again dog

The fixed mindset has you in its grips!

If you have the fixed mindset, you believe that your talents and abilities are set in stone – either you have them or you don’t. You must prove yourself over and over, trying to look smart and talented at all costs. This is the path of stagnation. (Carol Dweck – ‘Mindset; The new psychology series’)

For me, my earliest memory I have of this fixed mindset and of the feeling of ‘nope! I can’t do it’ was in year 7 at secondary school.

I was adamant that I’d never be able to learn how to use the internet when I was being taught for the first time in class, I was 11 years old, and we were each sat at the school computers, back in the day when the screen monitors were each the size of a small house, using the earliest version of a search engine. I was so damn certain back then that it was a waste of time for me to even have to know because *insert flouncy and uncooperative voice with folded arms, swinging on my chair in front of the computer* ‘What even was the internet anyway sir? It will NEVER catch on.’

Hmmm, I think my stubborn pre-teen self definitely underestimated that one ay!

Fast forward twenty years and the internet definitely did catch on, and I can in fact use it and navigate it pretty much with my eyes closed.

I could learn.

I had the capability.

But when I was 11 years old I chose to not try and to give up. I had a fixed mindset that was in protectionism mode. I’d told myself I ‘would definitely fail’, just in case I struggled in my first few attempts and didnt want to lose face. That way when it happened it wouldn’t be as embarrasing or hard to take, because I’d already set myself up mentally in preparation for that to happen. As mentioned in my last post You can’t teach an old dog new tricks…or so the saying goes…. it then goes on to become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

matrix

Lets now have a look at the flip side of the coin – the growth mindset!

 If you have a growth mindset, however, you know that talents can be developed and that great abilities are built over time. This is the path of opportunity-and success.  (Carol Dweck – ‘Mindset; The new psychology series’)

fixed v growth

We all have to start somewhere right? We can learn, we just need to have the right open mindset in order to achieve it! Get started by trying new old things – smaller projects based on something you did before but not wholeheartedly and felt you didn’t accomplish.  Starting small and becoming good at these challenges is where you build your confidence, and then go on from this point to tackle the larger tasks as they come your way! For me I did this by:

1. Doodling: When I was at school I was always doodling on all of the covers of my exercise books. Every single one of them. Nothing special at all, just weird squiggles, but I never did anything with the scribblings. I didn’t believe I was creative as I wasn’t doing those type of subjects in school, such as Art or Design or Textiles. In January of this year I decided to try my hand at being creative and didn’t care if what I did was rubbish, I was going to stick with it and practise. I invested in some drawing pads and pens, got started and just kept doodling. I hadn’t done any type of creative drawing in years and had never created something from nothing. But I proved myself wrong!

2. Skipping: I SUCKED when I first picked up a skipping rope a few months ago and I had whip marks all over me because I had the wrong size rope and was trying to jump too quickly before I’d mastered the basic technique (see my war wound photo below!). But after a few weeks of persistence, and buying my own correct length rope that wasn’t a torture weapon, I started getting the hang of it and trying new little tricks. On my instagram page @powerofwordsandyou you can see my progress in a videos I’ve posted.

3: Playing a ‘brain-train’ game called 2 Cars: This is a really simple game which you can get as an app on your phone or tablet and is based on a simplest concept. Your left thumb controls the left red car, and your right thumb controls the right blue car. As they both drive in a straight line you have to move the cars left and right independently to dodge the squares and run over the circles to build up points.

2 cars

Sounds easy right? WRONG! If you can, go download it now and give it a try, its free. But be warned, it is addictive and HIGHLY frustrating. It feels like you have to get your left and right brain to work independently of each other, and be fast with your reflexes. When I started I couldn’t get past 1 on the scoreboard. Within half an hour I was managing to get 4, but couldn’t get past 20 for at least a couple more hours. Now my top score is 1250. *takes a bow and waves to the applauding crowd*. If I’d given up in the first hour I would’ve thought it was impossible to get past 5 points. Clearly I was wrong with that assumption too. I didn’t actively seek this game to consciously practise the growth mindset, but when I looked back I realise that’s what I’d done.

Don’t get me wrong, I still find some of my initial reactions to things out of my comfort zone as ‘ooooh crap! I can’t do this!!’ But then I immediately check myself, and shut that negativity down. The small little skills I’ve become good at in the above examples may seem insignificant in what I’ve achieved in the grand scheme of things, but it’s had a massive impact on me mentally. I now consciously sit within my growth mindset to make sure I persevere with things I find daunting and challenging, and make sure I remind myself I can do it.

Next step: Conquering the world. That shouldn’t take too long right? Think I can get that done in half an hour, and then put my feet up.

conquer

So now the final question of the day: If you know you have a fixed mindset mentality yourself – what are you going to do about it?

*If you would like information on the Business & Personal Coaching services that I offer and pricings, please do go to my Coaching Services page or email me via my Contact page.

Angela

#beapebble


7 thoughts on “Fixed Mindset vs Growth Mindset – Get Stuck Into Trying New Old Things!

  1. I learnt the same thing when I started dancing a few years ago. I spent about 3 or 4 months dancing in my room for about 45 minutes every day and I got very good. It really shocked me to see how far I went and it showed me that I could progress in pretty much anything if I pushed myself.

    Oh and what on earth does be a pebble mean??

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    1. Exactly! Now no-one will be able to stop you on the dance floor haha 🙂

      Ohh the pebble – ‘Just as ripples spread out when a single pebble is dropped into water, the actions of individuals can have far-reaching effects’ – I like to think of that quote as how we may seem small in the world but we can all have huge positive impacts through our actions as we share what they do and they ripple out 🙂

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  2. When I first learn Japanese language, I can’t memorize their writing system, my grade sucks compared to my classmates and I began to give up because ‘hey, it’s not like I’m going to be good anyway’ but I don’t want to. I wanted to be able to speak Japanese so I choose to ignore my negative mindset and just focus on practising my Japanese.

    I feel good now looking back at my old notes and sees how much I have progressed through these years. The process took a long time but it’s worth it.
    nurulrasya.com

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    1. Thanks reading and for sharing what you did to work on your fixed mindset, learning japanese is incredible! I bet you are so glad you didn’t give up when it was tough, your perseverance paid off!! You have inspired me to learn a new language now!

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